Embrace memories to help cope with grief


You’re not alone.

Everyone experiences grief at some point. The death of a loved one is never easy and often devastating, and the people left behind may feel that their sorrow will never lessen or go away.

Grieving is a difficult process, but there is help - and hope.

The Colleagues at Goshen Hospice encourage people suffering a loss to embrace memories of their loved one. They also suggest rituals of remembrance.

“Sometimes it is the simple memories that can bring a moment of comfort as we remember the all-important role of our loved ones in our lives” said Janet Quatman, LSW, CHP-SW, Social Worker and Bereavement Coordinator.

Below are some ways to help you remember and pay tribute. These rituals can be public or private, spontaneous or planned out. Create the rituals that will have the most meaning and significance for you.

  • Talk or write about the favorite times you shared.
  • Retain special keepsakes that belonged to your loved one.
  • Display a photo of your loved one. Tell them about your day or about a shared memory.
  • Visit places that stimulate memories of good times together.
  • Create a “memory book” of special photos you have selected. Write briefly about the memory reflected in the picture. Review the photos on holidays or anniversaries.
  • Contribute money to a charity, scholarship fund, or other worthy cause in your loved one’s name.
  • Donate an item to a favorite organization in your loved one’s name - a painting to a local hospital, a bench along a river or ocean, a wheelchair to the local hospice, a book to the library.
  • Plant a tree a rosebush in your loved one’s name.
  • Buy a unique candle and light it on special occasions - birthdays, anniversaries, etc.
  • Whenever you wish, visit the cemetery or place where your loved one’s ashes are scattered.
  • Release a balloon with an attached note to your loved one.
  • Continue to wear your wedding ring or have it made into a pendant for a necklace.

For other resources for grief or to learn more about Goshen Hospice, call 574-364-2700 or visit the Hospice section of our website.